When I first came out as genderfluid, people asked me what pronouns I used—and I said “any.” Here’s why the conflation of pronouns with gender led me to use they/them exclusively.
A few years ago, my sibling gave me an amazing gift for my birthday: a circular pronoun pin with a moving arrow piece that could point to “He,” “They,” or “She.” I’d been saying that it would be nice if…
